So his email messages raise your blood temperature a few degrees and bring a blush to your face. Somehow he knows just what to say to get a rise out of you and fill your mind with wild imaginings. But even though his keystroked sweet nothings cause you to breathe a little faster, how do you know if he’ll really have that magic touch, in the flesh?
Does hot cyberchemistry automatically translate to sizzle between the sheets?
In a word, nope. But that doesn’t mean it can’t happen, because thousands of brilliant matches have gotten their start online. But even when the e-repartee is hot, it’s not until you meet face-to-face that you’ll know for sure that you two have that spark.
Katherine, a 41-year-old single mom and registered nurse, became a true believer after meeting her soul mate over the Internet.
Katherine says, “When Paul and I met online, I was skeptical that it would go anywhere because he lived in Italy and I lived in the States. I wasn’t even sure I’d bother responding to his first message, because it seemed futile. But something about his messages really resonated with me, and soon we were communicating several times a day. We just seemed to click on every level. After a couple of weeks, we began speaking on the phone. It wasn’t too long before I felt I was really falling in love with him, and he with me. There was definitely lots of chemistry between us! After five months of emails and phone calls, he arranged a trip to the U.S. I was so nervous as I watched his plane taxi in. What if the chemistry wasn’t the same when we met face-to-face? It could have been a devastatingly heartbreaking blow. But the miracle is that our chemistry was even more powerful in person. After a couple more transatlantic visits, Paul has now relocated to the U.S., and we are happily married.”
Does hot cyberchemistry automatically translate to sizzle between the sheets?
In a word, nope. But that doesn’t mean it can’t happen, because thousands of brilliant matches have gotten their start online. But even when the e-repartee is hot, it’s not until you meet face-to-face that you’ll know for sure that you two have that spark.
Katherine, a 41-year-old single mom and registered nurse, became a true believer after meeting her soul mate over the Internet.
Katherine says, “When Paul and I met online, I was skeptical that it would go anywhere because he lived in Italy and I lived in the States. I wasn’t even sure I’d bother responding to his first message, because it seemed futile. But something about his messages really resonated with me, and soon we were communicating several times a day. We just seemed to click on every level. After a couple of weeks, we began speaking on the phone. It wasn’t too long before I felt I was really falling in love with him, and he with me. There was definitely lots of chemistry between us! After five months of emails and phone calls, he arranged a trip to the U.S. I was so nervous as I watched his plane taxi in. What if the chemistry wasn’t the same when we met face-to-face? It could have been a devastatingly heartbreaking blow. But the miracle is that our chemistry was even more powerful in person. After a couple more transatlantic visits, Paul has now relocated to the U.S., and we are happily married.”
Terry relates: “In my experience, not only does cyberchemistry not automatically translate to sizzle between the sheets, it doesn’t even guarantee you’ll want to see each other again after coffee. Some people are far better communicators via the written word than in the flesh, and the opposite is also true. While it’s exciting to have an erotic pen pal of sorts, it’s only one small aspect of the person. There’s no sight, touch, smell, hearing... and even one’s sixth sense is questionable. Nothing can offer more clues to a person than his body language, gestures, the tilt of a head, not to mention the sound of his voice.”
Terry continues, “When you think about it, online dating is like waiting for a Polaroid to come completely into focus. You get one thing at a time — first the words, then the voice, then a body, then the person — at least the part they want to show you. I use my intuition more than anything and it’s rarely been wrong. Is real-life chemistry possible? Absolutely. Is it automatic? No way.”
Bottom line, the mystery of romantic chemistry is just that: a mystery. Whether you meet online or the old-fashioned way, if the chemistry’s sizzling, you’ll know it’s for real when you feel it in the flesh.
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